Wednesday, October 7, 2015


People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good anyway. 

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway. 

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be
shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind.
Think big anyway. 

What you spend years building may
be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack if you help them.
Help people anyway. 

Give the world the best you have
and you might get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you've got anyway
Age wrinkles the body,, quitting wrinkles the soul...NEVER QUIT!!!

Wednesday, September 30, 2015


It is recorded that a WHITE man from Brooklyn owns the worlds largest penis. I will survey 10 black women that will say that their current  or most recent partner is not very well endowed. So I pose the question; does size really matter?

A man by nature wants to provide for his family. While Black men suffer from the highest rates of unemployment in America, it is not related to choice. Society says that the black male is "under qualified", and lacks the educational level to maintain decent employment. Now there are some that  don't want to work to avoid their paternal responsibilities, but even that exists with other races as well. "Not wanting to work" is a negative stereotype of black men that is certainly not true.

I think that might be a 50/50 call. Ladies weigh in, let me know.

Some relate this to the whole genetic theory, dating back to slavery. Any major sporting event features an array of fit, testosterone-filled black men. But, ‘Look at them! Now look at your man! And back to them! Now look at your man!’..Lol. Although there have been alot of great black athletes in sports. ALL BLACK MEN ARE NOT ATHLETIC!!!

Popular urban culture and Hollywood have perpetuated the myth of the black man as a player. This is in fact not true of only black men. All human beings must actively resist polygamy in their lives because of the pressures of evolution, which tell us to procreate with as many people as possible, and society dictates that we remain faithful to our chosen partner.

This one depends largely on who you ask. Interracial marriage is on the rise in America and the perception that black men like white women may stem from the fact that it is becoming more socially acceptable and therefore more common. In the end, a man and a woman will be together for reasons of personal compatibility, not race.

A GOOD black man will be a wonderful father to his children no matter what the circumstances. The trick is to avoid those who might take the easy way out of hard circumstances – of these there are plenty and they’re all shapes, sizes and colors.


Videos, urban and pop cultures have played on this perception to the point that those who unfamiliar with black people maintain this crazy idea. Some black males wear a jail stint like a badge of honor in today's society. Therefore, the youth idolize this perception.

The only reason people become known for dancing well is that one good mover can overshadow the 5 others who just ran to the exit to avoid being pulled on the dance floor.

Thank Ike Turner for this stereotype. In fact, white males have the highest reports of domestic violence in America.
Before your dreams can come true....
You gotta WAKE UP!   Dream then DO!!!

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Risk will make you lose your footing for a sec...Not taking risk makes you lose PERIOD... (Being in hot water keeps you CLEAN!)


The hottest women are the ones who aren't concerned about others' opinion of them. One of the greatest things about getting older is that you know yourself and what works for you — and that's hot no matter how old you are. Dressing in a way that makes you feel good about yourself and helps you express who you are goes a long way — and it doesn't have to be expensive."

Try "not" to focus on your flaws. Focus on what you got, and you'll rock!

Everyone, no matter what age, has one great body part or facial feature. And that's all you need to make you feel good about yourself. Just make the most of it. 

We all know we look best when we're cracking up or grinning about something. (Think about it: How many times have people told you that you have a great smile?) Also there's a certain confidence in a smile or laugh.

Crack up at the silly things you do from time to time. You will find it to be an incredible release. If you have trouble laughing at yourself, find some friends who also have a good sense of humor, who will mock your little idiosyncrasies with love and fondness, instead of coming off as criticism or an attempt to humiliate you.

Monday, September 28, 2015

"If a person cheats on you twice....You helped them the second time"


Fellas...When a lady's not on your SIDE, she will most likely FRONT and most definetly won't have your BACK! .....Find a good one!

Friday, September 25, 2015


I had to develop this post based on a previous one. I was speaking with a close friend of mine, and she said there are alot of women out there that would take the opportunity to get to know the man collecting carts at Wal-mart. Then I asked, "how would you go about that?" For one, the setting is not right; more than likely he will not be dressed in his best attire.

Someone said, the cart collector does not want to be anything but that. Do you really think an adult male sees himself retiring from Wal-mart as the shopping cart guy?  The fact of the matter is, there's alot of good men being passed by based on perception.  This man may have been a college graduate business owner,  an executive for a large corporation, or he may be the hardest working man you'll ever meet and working one of three jobs. How about this, a GOOD man that is just down on his luck.  NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER! Open it up and read the pages.

Its time our women step up and get back to basics, tradition and the old values. Stop letting society tell you what is "fly".  Real Housewives, Basketball wives and the other reality shows is not OUR reality. That's why you are so fascinated with such programming. Did you get that? "Programming".  You are programmed to want what you see or similar.  All i'm saying is, once you take the blinders off you will begin to see the "whole' picture.

In 1922 President Truman was 38, In debt and jobless. In 1945 he was the most powerful man in the free world. You'll never look at a trip to Wal-mart the same again. LOL. Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, September 23, 2015


Contrary to popular opinion, there are some good men out there. Unfortunately a lot of these men are so clueless that they choose the wrong type of women. To prevent another good man from choosing a female who does not suit him, I have prepared a list of types of women to avoid wifing at all costs. She is the type who is more trouble than she's worth. Again, I am talking to the “GOOD MEN”. Feel free to add on more suggestions in the comments.

1. The Needy Chick
She is beyond normal neediness. The type who will drag a dude down and doesn't care if he succeeds or not. She will go as far as purposely getting pregnant to “secure” him in her mind. She has nothing else going on in her life that means anything to her. Therefore, YOU are her life. So much so that she will not let you breath. She needs to either be with you constantly or know your whereabouts at all times.

2. The User/ Gold Digger
This chick is on the come up and will take what she can from you. . She will move on to your friends if she sees their money is longer than yours. She's looking for a sucka! Business, never personal for her.

3. The Whorish Chick
Sex is her weapon of choice. Some men might like getting trapped in this way. However, beware of her motives behind the sexual attention she is giving. Chances are she doesn’t even like your sex, she realizes it is your weakness and is using it to get what she wants from you.

4. The Drama Queen
The one with alot of damn issues. She is the one that constantly has some type of drama going on in her life, mostly because she is causing it. She does not know how to live without some type of drama happening. She will direct this need for drama towards her significant other. That would be you.

5. The Eternal Baby Momma
She is the chick with a bunch of  kids by "different" dudes. However, for some men be weary of the responsibility, because wifing her up ultimately means being responsible for her children as well. Careful, she may be a good woman, so it might be worth the package deal.  But if you're not a "little people" person, stay clear.

6. Insanely Jealous Woman
She is jealous to the tenth power. You can't walk in the mall without being accused of staring at every woman that passes by. You will be accused of wanting everyone from her best friend to her mother. She's even threatened by "The Real Housewives of Atlanta"..Lmao. She inspects your pockets, cell phone, car, email and your underwear. Her insecurities spell "D-I-S-A-S-T-E-R".

7. The Crazy Chick
She is much worse than the drama filled chick, she completely lacks rationale and is nutty. This is the chick who will slash your tires and break all of your car windows for not answering your phone. She lays in bed at night plotting how to punish you. RUN!!!

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

"Haters usually hate the things they cant have, and people they cant be"

Monday, September 21, 2015

Always remember..Be more concerned about your character than your reputation...
Your character is who you are, your reputation is who people THINK you are!!


Ladies this is the blueprint to keeping your man not just satisfied, but happy. I think alot of women feel that satisfied is good enough, and that is where the problem begins. I'm "satisfied" with a turkey and swiss sandwich, but I would be "happy" with a juicy steak. Get my drift?

1.  When a man initially meets you he knows whether you will be a "jump" or someone he can see himself in a long-term relationship with. This more than anything is based on your conversation.  Good "convo" goes a long way. I think most women would agree.

2.  Keep your appearance up at all times. I know we all have our days, but remember how you looked when we met. Many women take this for granted, but that mistress is out-working you, keeping it together everyday.

3.  Ladies, ladies, ladies...You have to step up your cook game. The old saying has never been more true, "the way to a man's heart, is thru his stomach". If you can't cook, take classes, call big mama. I know men that will leave home to get a meal from elsewhere. Just to get a good HOME-COOKED meal. May not even have sex with that person. Which brings me to my next point.

4.  Sex! Your man has to have everything in a sex partner at home. I MEAN EVERYTHING! So if you're not willing to go all out, you should let him know upfront, because it will be an issue down the road. No matter what you've heard, men want to be "freaked". Think about it like this, your man should look forward to coming home after work, not happy hour with the boys.

5.  Communication. Can he win an argument sometimes? He does want to feel like what he brings to the table holds a little weight. Let him win the debates every now and then. What i'm saying is choose your battles wisely. The most annoying thing to a man is a "nag" and in-laws. Lol. Men hate in-laws. Not necessarily the mother or father, but in-laws in general. Keep your family at a distance.

See, men are not that complicated....A list of 5 simple things to keep that special man "happy", because remember, if he is just "satisfied" with you, he will go elsewhere for "happy".

***Tip.....If the man you're with doesn't deserve these things....(whisper) YOU'RE WITH THE WRONG MAN!

Wednesday, September 16, 2015


If you're a side chick and you marry that man, (remember!)  that side chick position is now open again...

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Women sometimes fake orgasms,  but ladies WATCH OUT, there are men out here who fake whooole relationships.

Thursday, September 10, 2015


Someone said, just because you hang with certain people doesn't mean you act like them or do what they do. I say,  hang at the barbershop long enough you're bound to get a haircut!  Be careful, When you look at your closest friends, you look at yourself in the mirror.....You only surround yourself with people and actions that you're comfy cozy with...And thats a FACT!

Wednesday, September 9, 2015




Tuesday, September 8, 2015


Absolutely NO stressing about any circumstance...If you change how you look at things, the things you look at will change.

Monday, August 3, 2015


I just wanna know where have all the good girls gone?  You know the women that remind you of how it use to be. Good, subservient, committed, old-fashioned, traditional women.  These days, alot of women are living out their lives on the television screen, Basketball Wives, Real Housewives and other so-called "reality" shows. When in all actuality, thats not reality. It's not even the cast's reality. It is strictly entertainment. Then women wonder why men date outside of their race to find what their looking for.  Let's keep it real, we know that certain races are more submissive to their mate than others. Yeah I said it! Lol...Don't hurt me too bad.

Friday, July 31, 2015


How do you keep a man? The Ratchet answer would be to give him the best ass he’s ever had. But those who think that are single and currently figuring out what dress to wear to the club this weekend. Women who have locked down men, and I’m not talking about 6 months, I’m talking years, those women brought something to the table much more powerful than good sex.

You think you’re pretty, you think you’re smart, I bet you think you’re the most interesting woman on the planet right? But how do men view you? I’m not talking about does he turn and look when you walk by, let’s go deeper than the physical bullshit girls use as a crutch. Does he think you’re smart? Does he find you interesting? Are you classy in his mind or just another basic broad he’s ran through? Take a moment to think about the last dude you were seriously involved with. What did he like most about you? If it was something like “My smile” or “The way I rode it” you have a serious problem. Are you the type of woman he can spend all day talking to and has a connection deeper than the physical attraction or are you simply Pussy? And by Pussy I mean your only value to that man is to satisfy his physical needs. Your job is to make him cum. Pussy isn’t just the hoe or the slut, it’s also the girlfriend who we have no intention of marrying or keeping around past a year. Men love pussy, but we do not marry Pussy. A man may show Pussy off to his friends. He might buy Pussy gifts. Occasionally Pussy gets to come out of the house and get treated to dinner. Pussy even gets pregnant and becomes the Baby Mama. But he NEVER EVER marries Pussy. All men see women as Pussy initially, but after a few conversations we can decide if she’s more.

Are you the type he wifes or are you just the pussy?

Does he take you out? Stop being the drive thru hoe. Yeah he’s on hard times, his pockets aren’t built like that, but guess what? That nigga has money to buy a $59.99 PS3 game; he can scrape up a few dollars to take you to a restaurant that doesn’t have pictures on the menu. Your homgirls are single and fine dining and you’re taking Wing Stop to go, you’re not winning because you have a man, you’re losing because you have a man who keeps your dumb ass on Dracula duty, buried in the crib, only coming out when it’s time to buy condoms and Dutch masters.

Have you met his family? I’m not talking about his boys at the smoke house who he chills with and you happen to tag along. Has his mother laid eyes on you? I remember sneaking this girl into my mother’s house and she caught me. I was pissed because this girl was dumb as a brick, and my mother is nosey. My mother asked how she was doing and the bitch stood there as if she were asked to name elements from the periodic table. For years she joked me about the “retarded chinky eyed girl”. If he’s feeling you, you’ll meet the people who are most important to him. Being in the car and waving “hi” or seeing someone for a minute isn’t an introduction. Stop being smuggled hoe!

What do you talk about? “We spend all night on the phone talking, we have so much in common”, Bitch please. Do you know how many hours I’ve spent on the phone with girls who I couldn’t stand? I’ve stayed up until 6am more times than I can count, and it wasn’t because the girl was interesting, it was because I wanted what she had and was putting in work. Take away the gossip, the TV show talk, and the sexual flirting; what the fuck did I talk to you about? We both like the same colors… wow. We both randomly know Chauncey the stick up boy… incredible.  Spending twenty minutes saying “Did You Miss Me” and having a back and forth on who missed who gets played. The number one question a man wants to know, “When can I see you”. Why? Because you’re Pussy and we can’t get Pussy over the phone.

Are You Jeopardy Girl or Family Feud Girl? You’re not the brightest, you can tie your shoe and put your hair into a bun, but that’s where your genius ends. Stop pretending as if you visit before you visit  It’s okay to be into basic shit, but be able to put together a sentence. If I say, “So why didn’t you like Black Swan” don’t come at me with, “That was some white people shit”. That’s not a movie review, that’s a woman with poor analytical skills who tuned out as soon as she realized this wasn’t a comedy. There are more important things than who Chris Brown is fucking. If I wanted to date a woman with the life experience of a 17 year old I would have become a gym teacher or a stepfather.Stop being afraid to ask questions, research things you don’t understand, have a desire to be the best dressed at the party and the most interesting.

If a man won’t commit then he sees you as Pussy. You were in a relationship for 3 months, and he started acting funny… Did you really break up with him or did he sabotage the relationship after your Pussy expired? Yes, pussy has an expiration date. It expires exactly 3-4 months after we first hit it. The more you smash the faster it expires. It’s not milk, you can continue to hit pussy after it’s long expired, people are married and love hitting expired pussy, it still feels good. But it will never be at the height it was when it was considered new pussy. As a wise man once said, “There’s no pussy like new pussy, and that’s how a nigga feel”. Being extra freaky or dating during the winter months may buy you an extra two months of that new pussy smell, but that’s it. No matter If it lasts 4 months or 6 months, the man will show signs of cabin fever because you don’t have anything real that keeps him tied to you. This man didn’t suddenly become an asshole, that’s not the real reason you’re arguing after months of lovey dovey shit, he’s tired of your pussy and he’s ready to move on to the next girl because you don’t stimulate him mentally. Sure he may come back to hit it after the relationship is over, but no junkie stops cold turkey. The point is he’s now only using you for Pussy, and that reaffirms that from the jump he saw you as Pussy never wifey! There is no such thing as Marry Me Pussy. No matter how good you think your shot is, there has yet to be a vagina built that can make a man throw a ring on it. Personality, charm, charisma > Pussy. If you want to keep a man, not just have someone to roll around in the bed and eat lemon pepper strips with, look in the mirror and ask, “Would I want me?” It’s like a job interview, the strengths are obvious and often times exaggerated. The weaknesses, those are hard to figure out, it’s not because you don’t have any, it’s because we rarely take a serious look at what’s wrong with us. Other than stupidity which we can’t really cure, there are several things that hold men back from promoting women, but here are my top two,

Are You Boring: No one wants a girl who sits around saying “I’m bored”? If you’re a bored female, that means you are boring. I don’t care how pretty you are I don’t want to waste my time with a boring chick who always needs to be entertained by the most basic shit.  I’m bored my phone’s not ringing today. I’m bored nobody’s texting me. I’m bored nothing’s on TV. Guess what? I’m bored after fucking you for a month because all you do is seek attention. Your coochie may be wet, but your personality is dry! There are people that make things happen and there are people who complain that nothing’s happening. Which are you?

Are You Loyal: Yeah yeah you would never cheat physically, but who do you talk to besides him? Who do you flirt with besides him? Men know when a female has an active phonebook. Do you think he’s going to see you as more than a good time girl if you have dudes blowing up your phone? He can say, “cut every other dude off for me” but let’s be realistic, you have excuses to why you talk to these niggas, he’s your brother, he’s your best male friend, you work with him… the list goes on. If you’re not willing to let go of your backup dick, why should he upgrade you from the Pussy to the potential wifey?

If you are a girl who’s tired of the dating game and want something deeper than 9 inches and a text message, then it’s time to get serious and change the way men view you. When you go out on dates have something to say, push the conversation in directions you haven’t taken it before. Show him that you aren’t like the rest of these girls out here; make him feel as if you’re the type of woman he can raise children with… not drop children in. They say that beside every great man there is a great woman. History doesn’t remember women who could do it with no hands; they remember women who could do it with their brains. Stop Being Pussy, that’s how you keep a man.


Friday, July 24, 2015












Wednesday, July 8, 2015


We have touched on this topic in a previous post.  Why is it that some women just can't except when a GOOD man decides to test the waters on the other side?  A friend of mine is married to an Asian women, and he says that he gets more frowns and crazy looks from the "sistas".  Where men on the other hand could care less who dates who.  Ladies, is it hating? Jealousy? Envy?  I notice even when we discussed it on the other blog, black women are a little touchy when it comes to this issue.  What is the problem with women of other races taking that GOOD black man off the market?  What's your take?

Monday, July 6, 2015


A ship is safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships are for....Explore!

Thursday, July 2, 2015


Why do men cheat?                        
In most cases, it is simply because they aren't getting enough. The urge to have more sex is generated in the same part of the brain as the urge to have another slice of chocolate cake. They also wanted a person who was not a threat to their wives or families.

Why get married if your imtention isn't toward monogamy?
Men are still biologically driven to provide for their females and ensure their children are safe. Marriage continues to provide the social, legal and security benefits. The introduction of sexual exclusivity to marriage was originally intended to ensure inheritances stay within families, if you use a non-biblical rationale, but given that the modern Will and Testament, monogamy is no longer relevant for that purpose.

Can men really be monogamous?
I would say 100 percent of men cannot be mentally monogamous, in that they are biologically programmed to assess the sexual attractiveness of every single woman they see. A normal man could also achieve monogamy with a highly-sex driven woman, as could a man with a low libido and a normal woman. However, a normal man and a normal woman who have decided on lifetime sexual exclusivity [could] face chances of divorce and a very high chance of cheating.

Can you prevent men from cheating?
NO...However, you can use his nature to work for you, rather than against you. That means negotiating some infidelity if you are not “in the mood.” It does not have to be other lovers: It could be pornography, or a lap dance [at a strip club]. The important thing to remember is that "sex" is your man's strongest, most basic instinct, so working with it puts you in a position of  power in the relationship. It is better to walk the dog on a leash, than to let it escape through an unseen hole in the back fence.

Also, never cross your legs for an extended period, that's opening the door to infidelity.  Don't let yourself go, always keep yourself up.  There is nothing less valued than a woman that no one else wants. Always remind him how valuable you are, how popular you are and drop "subtle" hints that other men still find you desirable. This will take advantage of his biological need to compete.

What you should know about "the other woman"?
The most important thing to remember is that a man is probably only cheating for sex and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Cheating men still love their wives, they just can't resist a second slice of chocolate cake. Also remember the other woman is probably very normal.  You imagine the other lovers to be prettier, or thinner or better dressed, but there aren't too many supermodels out there looking for sugar daddies.

Remember this, IT HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE!!!  To sum it up best, it is truly the "nature" of the beast.  I can honestly say, ALL MEN DO NOT CHEAT, but all men have cheated at some point and time in their lives.  Most men I have interacted with in my travels will admit, as you age and mature, that desire eventually fades and you want to commit to that special woman.  In these present days of, "what they don't know, won't hurt them" and "what happens here, stays here",  we are finding faithfullness and loyalty to be a thing of the past.