RELATIONSHIPS.....

IF YOUR HEART IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE.... YOUR LIFE WILL FALL INTO THE RIGHT HANDS.

INSPIRE!!!

Inspire someone today! (Remember) Thousands of candles can be lit with just one lit candle!!.. is this you? 

IN HONOR OF BLACK HISTORY MONTH..."BLACK & PROUD" by Smokey Robinson

Check out this classic spoken word by Smokey Robinson.

LET'S GO!!!

You don't need a reason to get up in the morning....You need to be the reason other people get up in the morning!!

JUST BE......

On the road to the riches try and stop and take pictures,

pay attention to each detour and yield sign along the way,

be aware of the winding roads, know that as long as you take it slow

you'll be fine, plus you'll find, you're already there

On the road to the riches, don't forget to stop and take pictures

Cause life ain't about where you finish, but what you've learned along the way

So as you chase success, remember that I told you best

You look fine, then you'll find

You're already there

(And that's the truth)

Go ahead, be you (go 'head, be you)

If you want to be free (want to be free)

First you must be,

Just be, just be

With the glass half empty at least you know you're not thirsty

Try to see it for what it is

Really half full now take a sip

And as it trickles down let it wash away any doubts

In your mind

You'll find

Don't think real joy is in position or money (No)

Don't compare your life, to somebody else that you don't know

Just what they're going through, less you walk a mile in their shoes

Don't be blind, the sun shines on everybody here

(And that's the truth)

Go 'head be you

(Go 'head be you)

If you want to be free (want to be free)

Then you have to first be (be)

Just be (be)

 

I know that sometimes life can throw a curve

But you gotta keep on swinging hard

It's the only way to knock one out the park

And if it doesn't make it over the wall

The only way you strike-out is if you don't swing at all

(Mmm... And that's the truth)

Go ahead be you

(Go 'head be you)

If you want to be free (want to be free)

Be (Be)

Just be (be)

GRATITUDE!!!

If u can get grateful for what u got...God will reveal to you what your about to get.. The attitude of gratitude!

TRUE COLORS!!!

When people show you their TRUE colors, don't try to paint a different picture.  Protect yourself!

You can learn more about people by the things they say about others, than you can learn about what others say about them.

VALENTINE'S DAY!!!

Remember, we should celebrate our lovers each and everyday.  Society has invented one special day out of 365, to commercialize "Love". Consumers spend 13-14 billion dollars on Valentine's Day. Wow!  Funny, because after doing research it has absolutely no affiliation to the Saint Valentine. All findings are strictly myth.

PROGRESSION!!!

If you're not progressin', you're probably bs'n....

ARE YOU DONE COMPLAINING???

When there's nothing left to burn, you have to set yourself on fire!!! 

WHY MEN CHEAT!

Why do men cheat?                        
In most cases, it is simply because they aren't getting enough. The urge to have more sex is generated in the same part of the brain as the urge to have another slice of chocolate cake. They also wanted a person who was not a threat to their wives or families.

Why get married if your imtention isn't toward monogamy?
Men are still biologically driven to provide for their females and ensure their children are safe. Marriage continues to provide the social, legal and security benefits. The introduction of sexual exclusivity to marriage was originally intended to ensure inheritances stay within families, if you use a non-biblical rationale, but given that the modern Will and Testament, monogamy is no longer relevant for that purpose.

Can men really be monogamous?
I would say 100 percent of men cannot be mentally monogamous, in that they are biologically programmed to assess the sexual attractiveness of every single woman they see. A normal man could also achieve monogamy with a highly-sex driven woman, as could a man with a low libido and a normal woman. However, a normal man and a normal woman who have decided on lifetime sexual exclusivity [could] face chances of divorce and a very high chance of cheating.

Can you prevent men from cheating?
NO...However, you can use his nature to work for you, rather than against you. That means negotiating some infidelity if you are not “in the mood.” It does not have to be other lovers: It could be pornography, or a lap dance [at a strip club]. The important thing to remember is that "sex" is your man's strongest, most basic instinct, so working with it puts you in a position of  power in the relationship. It is better to walk the dog on a leash, than to let it escape through an unseen hole in the back fence.

Also, never cross your legs for an extended period, that's opening the door to infidelity.  Don't let yourself go, always keep yourself up.  There is nothing less valued than a woman that no one else wants. Always remind him how valuable you are, how popular you are and drop "subtle" hints that other men still find you desirable. This will take advantage of his biological need to compete.

What you should know about "the other woman"?

The most important thing to remember is that a man is probably only cheating for sex and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Cheating men still love their wives, they just can't resist a second slice of chocolate cake. Also remember the other woman is probably very normal.  You imagine the other lovers to be prettier, or thinner or better dressed, but there aren't too many supermodels out there looking for sugar daddies.

Remember this, IT HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE!!!  To sum it up best, it is truly the "nature" of the beast.  I can honestly say, ALL MEN DO NOT CHEAT, but all men have cheated at some point and time in their lives.  Most men I have interacted with in my travels will admit, as you age and mature, that desire eventually fades and you want to commit to that special woman.  In these present days of, "what they don't know, won't hurt them" and "what happens here, stays here",  we are finding faithfullness and loyalty to be a thing of the past.

Cheating is wrong! Point blank...It causes pain and insecurity in a relationship.

"He who walks with wise men shall be WISE...but one who's a companion of fools suffers harm" - Prov 13:10 

JUNGLE FEVER!!!

We have touched on this topic in a previous post.  Why is it that some women just can't except when a GOOD man decides to test the waters on the other side?  A friend of mine is married to an Asian women, and he says that he gets more frowns and crazy looks from the "sistas".  Where men on the other hand could care less who dates who.  Ladies, is it hating? Jealousy? Envy?  I notice even when we discussed it on the other blog, black women are a little touchy when it comes to this issue.  What is the problem with women of other races taking that GOOD black man off the market?

BE FREE, AND PROSPER

Free your life up and you will prosper.. Watch out for silent vampires!

Focus on what gifts God has given you and your gifts get bigger....
Focus on what God has given others and your gifts seem smaller

NOW HIRING! SIDE CHICK POSITION-BENEFITS LIMITED!!!

If you're a side chick and you marry that man, (remember!)  that side chick position is now open again...

HATERS

Dont worry,  your haters are just confused admirers.

BLUEPRINT TO KEEPING YOUR MAN HAPPY!!!

Ladies this is the blueprint to keeping your man not just satisfied, but happy. I think alot of women feel that satisfied is good enough, and that is where the problem begins. I'm "satisfied" with a turkey and swiss sandwich, but I would be "happy" with a juicy steak. Get my drift?

1.  When a man initially meets you he knows whether you will be a "jump" or someone he can see himself in a long-term relationship with. This more than anything is based on your conversation.  Good "convo" goes a long way. I think most women would agree.

2.  Keep your appearance up at all times. I know we all have our days, but remember how you looked when we met. Many women take this for granted, but that mistress is out-working you, keeping it together everyday.

3.  Ladies, ladies, ladies...You have to step up your cook game. The old saying has never been more true, "the way to a man's heart, is thru his stomach". If you can't cook, take classes, call big mama. I know men that will leave home to get a meal from elsewhere. Just to get a good HOME-COOKED meal. May not even have sex with that person. Which brings me to my next point.

4.  Sex! Your man has to have everything in a sex partner at home. I MEAN EVERYTHING! So if you're not willing to go all out, you should let him know upfront, because it will be an issue down the road. No matter what you've heard, men want to be "freaked". Think about it like this, your man should look forward to coming home after work, not happy hour with the boys.

5.  Communication. Can he win an argument sometimes? He does want to feel like what he brings to the table holds a little weight. Let him win the debates every now and then. What i'm saying is choose your battles wisely. The most annoying thing to a man is a "nag" and in-laws. Lol. Men hate in-laws. Not necessarily the mother or father, but in-laws in general. Keep your family at a distance.

See, men are not that complicated....A list of 5 simple things to keep that special man "happy", because remember, if he is just "satisfied" with you, he will go elsewhere for "happy".

***Tip.....If the man you're with doesn't deserve these things....(whisper) YOU'RE WITH THE WRONG MAN!

PRAYER WORKS!!!

Pray all the time...Much kneeling keeps you in GOOD standing! 

"Money can't buy happiness, but neither can poverty...."

NO STRESS!!!

Absolutely NO stressing about any circumstance...If you change how you look at things, the things you look at will change.

GOOD GIRLS, GONE BAD!!!

I just wanna know where have all the good girls gone?  You know the women that remind you of how it use to be. Good, subservient, committed, old-fashioned, traditional women.  These days, alot of women are living out their lives on the television screen, Basketball Wives, Real Housewives and other so-called "reality" shows. When in all actuality, thats not reality. It's not even the cast's reality. It is strictly entertainment. Then women wonder why men date outside of their race to find what their looking for.  Let's keep it real, we know that certain races are more submissive to their mate than others. Yeah I said it! Lol...Don't hurt me too bad.

BE THE BEST YOU!!!

Stop trying to be like everyone else. When you're someone who's different, fly, dope & unusual... EVERYBODY will try to be like you!

DO WE REALLY CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF US?

We always hear,  "I don't care what people think of me." Honestly, do we really care about our public perception?  I THINK WE DO!!!