I just wanna know where have all the good girls gone? You know the women that remind you of how it use to be. Good, subservient, committed, old-fashioned, traditional women. These days, alot of women are living out their lives on the television screen, Basketball Wives, Real Housewives and other so-called "reality" shows. When in all actuality, thats not reality. It's not even the cast's reality. It is strictly entertainment. Then women wonder why men date outside of their race to find what their looking for. Let's keep it real, we know that certain races are more submissive to their mate than others. Yeah I said it! Lol...Don't hurt me too bad.
Hmmm you may have done it this time Jay, I can't wait to see the comments you get from this post. LOL I agree that there are a lot of people that feel that dating outside their race will satisfy that submissive desire, as a product of interacial dating.... I haven't seen a lot of them last. Maybe just appreciating that there are alot of the Good Girls around (hint hint) you just gotta know how to find them. You looking for a Good Girl Jay? LMAO
ReplyDeleteLol @Total...I knew this would trigger, and at the same time stimulate alot of thought. Would you consider yourself a GOOD girl? I know you will say yes. Am I correct?...LMAO
ReplyDeleteThis is what the no good men have created...lol
ReplyDelete@Jay YES I consider myself a very GOOD GIRL and if you knew I would say yes then why did you ask? If I wasn't a Good Girl....there would be no shame in me saying so. Would you consider yourself a Good Man?? LMAO...Lets talk about that.
ReplyDeleteYeah and women these days are worst than some dudes I know.
ReplyDelete@Total, Lol....Not only GOOD but a GREAT man. Thats a whole notha blog...Lol
ReplyDelete@Jay...sounds like a winner to me! (all smiles)
ReplyDeleteI know we sometimes come across as "hell raisers", but thats part of being a "strong" black woman. We also need for our men to understand everything that we have endured along the way.
ReplyDeleteThey are definitely few and far between my brotha.
ReplyDeleteWondering if I should tear this blog apart now or wait for some more stimulating commentary for fuel....
ReplyDeleteI don't really think that women of another race are more submissive. I just believe that every man WANTS and NEEDS a "GOOD GIRL outside of the home and a "BAD GIRL" inside the home(if u know what I mean). There are both GREAT MEN and GREAT WOMEN out there no matter want race they are. They should just learn "WHEN & HOW" to be GOOD AND BAD!!!
ReplyDeleteI am a good girl, wondering where all the good men are...Show me a good man and I will show u a good woman...
ReplyDeleteJay just had to take it there! We are out here in abundance it's just that men don't know how to take us and most of all they don't appreciate us. It does'nt matter what race you are if you are going to be submissive, it depends on the individual and how the man who is suppose to be the head of the house treats her. I have interracial marriages in my family and they go through the same problems like everyone else. The one thing I can say to my brothers is that we sistas can understand and relate to some of ya'll crazy azz's because we are on the same side of the spectrum. Jay, I have a question for you, why is it that when an interracial couple breaks up, his azz is broke and back where he started he comes running back to a sista....hmmmm? It's not that sistas are not submissive, but for some reason or another it seems that the brothers always want to take us thru some "BS" and when we stand and speak up it's "You Talk Too Much or She Just Don't Know When To Be Quiet(Shut-Up) and the famous You Just Dont Understand." Black women have always been strong and carried a heavy load, hell we have to be with all we go thru, we have strong backs most of us! I know I'm a "Great/Good Girl" and I'm a "Bad Girl" when I'm suppose to be.I just haven't come across that one who sees and respects what he has. As far as the submissive part, got that down to a science thanks to my grandparents. I know my role and responsibiities, it's time for the real men to stand up and know theirs. We have written instructions for both men and women, but noone wants to read and follow them! Eph 5:21-33 lays it out for us, in Verse 21 it states "Be in subjection to one another in fear of Christ." Verse 22: Let wives be in subjectin to their husbands as to the Lord. Verse 28 In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, 29 for no man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it, as the Christ also does the congregation. Stay in your lane and recognize when you do have something good!
ReplyDelete@ Dee PREACH girl! @Jay see I told you....You really did it this time. Turning up the HEAT in 2011. LMAO
ReplyDeleteLooks like my girl Dee don' said a mouth full, and I can call off the attack dogs for now. Thanks for breaking it down, girl. You touched on alot that I was going to cover, and I agree with you 100%!
ReplyDeleteTrue there are some GOOD women out there if you are willing to put up with all the BS that comes along with it. Just like Jay said, certain women are more submissive to their man, thats just a fact and you women know it. Willing to let that man lead. Now not being submissive doesn't make you a bad person, just a little more difficult to deal with.
ReplyDeleteOk gloves on! Yeah Dee, and thou shalt not steal, kill, commit adultery and the whole nine. The reason why the world is so screwed up today, noone lives according to scripture anymore. Sistas I wouldn't trade ya'll for anything, but we know you can be....hmmm (lookin for a nice word) bull-headed! Unwilling to allow the KING to rule. Not gonna touch on the interracial comment, thats another blog. I am going to release the BLUEPRINT to keeping your man. I guess you're going to tell me how that is done too, huh?
ReplyDeleteOh, and by the way, subservient and submissive are two different things. A man that tells me he is looking for a subservient mate for a wife is implying that he wants somebody inferior to him. That will do his bidding because that is what they are supposed to do as a wife and he can do whatever he wants without recourse. I take issue with that. I can be 'submissive' to the right man; allowing him to be the head of household and being humble and obedient to his decisions. However, my role as his wife is his helpmate, his partner, his rib... A husband should value and respect his wife's opinion as the caregiver to their family and the keeper of their home. I question the intentions of a man who wants a wife that can't speak her mind, or allows him to do whatever bullcrap he wants because she doesn't have a voice. The good men I know, who have wonderful, healthy marriages, have told me that they love the fact their wives won't let them get away with behavior unbefitting of an honorable husband. "My wife ain't having it!" comes to mind before they do something stupid or that they might regret. They say it keeps them in check and losing their good strong woman over some b/s isn't worth it. He know's his beautiful, strong woman has his back and can hold it down for him if she needs to and is proud of her grounded nature. So, I said it before and I'll say it again, good men are as rare as Yeti sightings. Where yall at!? *BLlllrrRRrrr* #Yetivoice LOL
ReplyDeleteMo, I think you are taking it to the extreme. We don't want robots. Of course you want a mate with a voice. To be subservient as I intended it to be is synonymous with submissive. I know that it can also mean inferior, but who wants a slave. The new 2011 model happens to be "very" vocal and opinionated, and thats cool, but if I am the head, allow me to lead, without conviction. Thats all i'm saying, and it doesn't take me a whole long, drawn-out spill to convey this.
ReplyDeleteLet's go!
ReplyDelete@Jay: Not taking it to the extreme at all; but you can call it what you want. Allowing you to leading without conviction is a doable request. However, are you making decisions without conferring with your PARTNER? Or, does your totaletarian dicatatorship allow your woman to call the shots too? By the way, last time I checked we were blogging...so long drawn out or not as long as you get my point---mission accomplished.
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ReplyDelete@ Jay...Your question was where are all the good girls? Here are a few of us letting you know that we do exist. Not all sistas are bull-headed and it's very easy to be submissive to the right man, especially when he's leading the family in the right direction. The problem with men is that they get us and then don't appreciate or know how to treat us. When men do find a good girl they treat her like "CRAP" and that's when the "Bad Girl" that you brought to life comes out. We are our own individual selves and if we quit being fashioned after this world and focus on living by the scriptures daily we would not have time to be concerned with what society says is right. As far as how to keep a man, we can do everything right and they will still find a reason to complain about something. Most men are always looking and again they don't appreciate what they already have!
ReplyDeleteWhoa! Good point Mo. However, you are making a point and proving MY point at the same time....Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteSee unlike most men, I can tame sassy!
Ok its going like this on a friday. I see both of your points.
ReplyDelete@...BB, you said that there is BS that comes along with a good girl, do you care to elaborate? The last time I checked, cooking, cleaning, raising kids, sexing your man when, where and how he wants it, being supportive of his goals and career, taking care of him when he's sick, rubbing his back and listening to his problems, just being there for him..... I can go on and on but, that doesn't sound like BS to me...hmm! Can you help me out on this one, give us good girls some tips? Maybe with your advice you can help us as Jay says keep our men....lol..!!! Although my grandfather told me a long time ago, a kept man is one who wants to be that!
ReplyDelete@Dee, BINGO! you nailed it! Give me all that over everything, anyday.
ReplyDelete@Jay: LOL @ "tame sassy"! Man, puhlezZe! What point of yours did I prove? The only point proven is that you evidently what a woman that is a mute. No voice. No opinion. No challenge. No stimulation. Check the Deaf-Mute Society, maybe you can catch you a winner. #smirking
ReplyDelete@Mo: all i'm sayin is KNOW your role, play YOUR position...If you wanna piss standing up too, then one of us is not needed.
ReplyDelete^5 DeeEEeee!!! Please tell them. And they're STILL not satisfied. SMH
ReplyDeleteWas just reading that Gucci Mane just got an ice cream cone tattooed on his face. Then it says manager denies he was in a mental institute. How's that for an oxymoron? Who in the hell gets an ice cream cone tatted on their face?
ReplyDelete@Jay, If that aint crazy, what is.
ReplyDelete@Dee, Show me where those women are. I need to move there. Lol
ReplyDeleteYall are off the chain today! So entertaining!
ReplyDelete@....Pat...you have to be willing to put in the work and time, she might be in another state or she could be just around the corner. Or she could be the one that you let get away and needs to be re-visited is she'll take you back...lol...!
ReplyDeleteSmh...even if you put out a blueprint it's not going to change anything...a man claims he wants a good woman but when he has one he doesn't appreciate and respect her and then expects her to put up with his bullshit..all in da name of love...so then he goes elsewhere looking for what he's not getting but could be getting at home if he was being attentive..All men have to do is open their eyes and take notice and appreciate the woman they claim to love...once men graduate from da school of hard knocks and start acting their age and like GROWN MEN instead of BOYS..He will be shown a good woman and will know one when he sees one. Treat a woman how you would want to be treated...treat her like a QUEEN then she'll treat you like a KING. Men want a woman to be 100 with them but then they be on some half ass shit.. and then complain when you get less of what she has to offer..Word to the wise if you truly want a GOOD WOMAN make sure you ready to be a and that you are definitively a GOOD MAN
ReplyDeleteWow...I been out of pocket a few days and i see it has been on and poppin on here...."Tame sassy" Jay....I hear that..there is only one way to tame her!!! Now she would have to be reminded ever so often but if done right she can.....oh wait I had a moment...sorry everyone...LOL I'm back. The bottom line is "we" men and women have to learn to stop harping on what we have experienced and live "today" sometines we cannot see what we have for always looking back at what was. You cannot catergorize all women or all men...if all you attract is the bad ones then check your bait....
ReplyDelete@ Go Girl....where have you been I needed my back-up. Total, Mo & I have been holding it down....Turn up the heat in da kitchenlol..!
ReplyDeleteDee....I don't want to add gasoline to the fire but you know I don't mind...So to comment the interracial comment from earlier, it is so annoying to be hit on by a dude that is married to another race but wants to double dip so he marries her but wants to cheat with us...WHAT THE HELL!!! Ok had another moment....the reality of it ios that "Black" women are thye strongest women ever made when it comes to edurance. We put up with BS just as other women do of other races but we only let it go so far. I am so tired of triffiling men saying "where r all the good girls?" Dammit you turned them all bad with the foolishness. That's like throwing something away on purpose and then wanting to retrieve it after the clean-up(GREAT) man has already come by. I too am a good gril that will not tolerate meteocrity in a man and if that makes me bad then so be it. But ladies I must say that I desire not other man but a strong handsome, fine as aged wine(Black Man). Now if they would just get there S*** together and represent cause "Jay" talk is cheap actions speak louder than words "Great Man"!
ReplyDeleteBy the way ya'll I can spell it is hard to type from my phone....LOL
ReplyDelete@Jay, you started the fire this time bruh...Lol...It kills me me when every woman claims to be soooo good, until you get with them, and they stop doin the things that got you in the first place. They get comfortable, then Becky comes along and does all the things she use to do.
ReplyDeleteYou ain't seen nothing yet Chris...My point exactly, what you speak is so true...They are all good when you initially meet them, after that, their heads spin around, and they start vomitting green stuff. Crazy!
ReplyDeleteI'm lovin the music selection. The debate is interesting as well.
ReplyDeleteROTFLMBO @ Chris and Jay.....ok why is it that the same can be said about men?? I agree that a woman should not completely do a 180 on her man but men r the same way. You guys wine and dine us to get us and then when we fall in love with you the real u surfaces. i'm a firm believer that if Becky can take you she can have you!!! Just remember you men quickly fine that 20 is not more than 80 and then you want 80 back...SMH!! Relationships are about mutual commitment and communication. It is amazing that communication is the number one reason people break up, end marraiges, and go to blow. Men are the worst communicators!!!!! Except when it comes to blogs..LOL
ReplyDeleteI agree, women get comfortable, after they get you.
ReplyDeleteOk now this getting comfortable talk works both ways. I think that both men and women get comfortable in relationships and tend to @Jay spin around and vomit green stuff. LOL
ReplyDeleteThis blog is so "HOT" I just had to post something. When a couple sees that something is starting to change in the relationship, thats when its time to sit down and talk about it before it ever comes to "Becky." Women are much better communicators than men are, but if you are constantly screaming on him or talking to him in an abusive, childlike or belittling manner he does not hear you (this goes both ways). Both people tend to change in a relationship and sometimes its not for the better. Just like Go Girl said, men you stop doing what you did to get us and them expect for us to stay the same. Im not saying that you have to take me to Ruth Chris every weekend, but me coming home to a nice dinner that you prepared and my bath water waiting would be nice. You surprising me and doing something just because, shows that you love me and dont only think about me because of a day recognized by the whole world. Men, think about how you want to be treated and some ladies as well and starting doing for that special person in your life, you just might be surprised of what you get in return. We all want to feel appreciated,loved and wanted!
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