To find the right person, you have to become the person you wanna find.

Don't worry, it'll all be PERFECT in the end. If things are not perfect...ITS NOT THE END!

IF YOU WAIT UNTIL YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING FOR EVERYBODY, 

INSTEAD OF SOMETHING FOR SOMEBODY, 

YOU'LL END UP DOING NOTHING FOR NOBODY.

Be Thankful...Many times being lucky is just a matter of believing you're Lucky :)

Trust and believe, you just gonna have to trust and believe....

Motivation For The Soul!!

Wanna be happy?

Let go of what's gone

Be grateful for what remains

Look forward to what's coming

PRAY

The best way to learn how to Pray, is to Pray.
If u prayed & it didn't work. PRAY AGAIN!!!

10 MYTHS ABOUT BLACK WOMEN

1.BLACK WOMEN DON'T TAKE CARE OF THEIR BODIES
There is a generalization that they have no interest in eating right or going to the gym. We often hear about the research and studies that show how overweight black women are. However, recent studies show that more so now than ever black women have become more active and are prone to eating healthier.

2. BLACK WOMEN DON'T LIKE TO LISTEN TO THEIR MEN
Black women are raised to be strong minded. However, if they feel that he is responsible and they trust him, then they have no problem listening to their man. It is only when they do not trust him or his motives that their guards begin to rise and the trust vanishes.

3. THEY HAVE NO INTEREST OR URGE TO GET MARRIED
Despite the recent interest in successful black women being single and assumed to not have any interest in marriage, the truth is that many of them do want to be married one day. Just because a woman has high aspirations for her career does not mean that she does not still yearn for her soul mate.

4. THEIR HAIR DEFINES THEM
Yes, black women do love their hair. They enjoy how beautiful a new style makes them feel. What women doesn’t love a fresh salon look? However, some black women take it to the extreme when it comes to their hair. I could go on for days with this one, but I won't.

5. THEY DO NOT GET ALONG WITH OTHER WOMEN
This is a stereotype of all women. But it seems that black women are perceived to be more territorial, and are assumed to be always overly aggressive and angry.

6. BLACK WOMEN DO NOT LIKE TO PERFORM ORAL SEX
I believe this is an ancient myth nowadays. Any woman who is in love with her man will put forth the effort to please him as long as he is pleasing her. It is in a woman’s nature to want to keep her partner happy.

7. BLACK WOMEN LOVE TO ARGUE AND FIGHT
This goes back to slavery days when the black man would be punished for talking back to the master, while the black woman was given more rope. No pun intended. And still to this day they have to have the last word, and WILL fight if she has to.

8. BLACK WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS
All women of every culture enjoy being cared for financially. Ladies how many times has a man looked just a little better driving that new Benz, with a pocket full of money and a celebrity status?  When every woman thought Wesley Snipes and Omar Epps were the finest brothas alive. Take them off of the tv screen and you wouldn't look twice.

9. BLACK WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO THE BAD BOY
Many find themselves attracted to the bad boy or the man who you KNOW is no damn good for you. Some women distance themselves from being attracted to the wrong type of man, who might not be as exciting, but probably will treat them a whole hell of a lot better than the bad boy.

10. THEY HATE TO SEE BLACK MEN WITH ANOTHER RACE
I don't know if it is deeply rooted in them, but when Derek walks in a room with Sally, you can cut the tension with a knife!  I have a lot of friends and family that date outside their race and know this one to be true. Especially if the man is attractive.

Do what you have to do, so you can do what you wanna do #priorities

Don't you dare give up....Big shots are just small shots who kept on shooting!!!

GETTING IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE FOR SEX, IS LIKE BUYING A 747 AIRPLANE FOR THE FREE PEANUTS....YOU CAN GET PEANUTS ANYWHERE!

Never look down on anyone.....Unless you're helping them up!!!

Don't just say u love someone....You must show it day in & day out! Love is not a say....Love is a DO!

GOD DOESN'T CALL THE QUALIFIED.......

.......HE QUALIFIES THE CALLED!!!

"WORDS TO LIVE BY"

People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good anyway. 

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway. 

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be
shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind.
Think big anyway. 

What you spend years building may
be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack if you help them.
Help people anyway. 

Give the world the best you have
and you might get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

Age wrinkles the body,, quitting wrinkles the soul...NEVER QUIT!!!

10 STEREOTYPES ABOUT BLACK MEN

1. ALL BLACK MEN ARE WELL ENDOWED 
It is recorded that a WHITE man from Brooklyn owns the worlds largest penis. I will survey 10 black women that will say that their current  or most recent partner is not very well endowed. So I pose the question; does size really matter?

2. THEY DON"T LIKE TO WORK
A man by nature wants to provide for his family. While Black men suffer from the highest rates of unemployment in America, it is not related to choice. Society says that the black male is "under qualified", and lacks the educational level to maintain decent employment. Now there are some that  don't want to work to avoid their paternal responsibilities, but even that exists with other races as well. "Not wanting to work" is a negative stereotype of black men that is certainly not true.

3. THE BEST IN BED
I think that might be a 50/50 call. Ladies weigh in, let me know.

4. GREAT ATHLETES
Some relate this to the whole genetic theory, dating back to slavery. Any major sporting event features an array of fit, testosterone-filled black men. But, ‘Look at them! Now look at your man! And back to them! Now look at your man!’..Lol. Although there have been alot of great black athletes in sports. ALL BLACK MEN ARE NOT ATHLETIC!!!

5. BLACK MEN ARE PLAYERS
Popular urban culture and Hollywood have perpetuated the myth of the black man as a player. This is in fact not true of only black men. All human beings must actively resist polygamy in their lives because of the pressures of evolution, which tell us to procreate with as many people as possible, and society dictates that we remain faithful to our chosen partner.

6. BLACK MEN LOVE WHITE WOMEN
This one depends largely on who you ask. Interracial marriage is on the rise in America and the perception that black men like white women may stem from the fact that it is becoming more socially acceptable and therefore more common. In the end, a man and a woman will be together for reasons of personal compatibility, not race.

7. BLACK MEN DON'T TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILDREN
A GOOD black man will be a wonderful father to his children no matter what the circumstances. The trick is to avoid those who might take the easy way out of hard circumstances – of these there are plenty and they’re all shapes, sizes and colors.

8. HE'S BEEN IN JAIL

Videos, urban and pop cultures have played on this perception to the point that those who unfamiliar with black people maintain this crazy idea. Some black males wear a jail stint like a badge of honor in today's society. Therefore, the youth idolize this perception.

9. GOOD DANCERS
The only reason people become known for dancing well is that one good mover can overshadow the 5 others who just ran to the exit to avoid being pulled on the dance floor.

10. WIFE BEATERS (VIOLENT)
Thank Ike Turner for this stereotype. In fact, white males have the highest reports of domestic violence in America.

Before your dreams can come true....
You gotta WAKE UP!   Dream then DO!!!

Risk will make you lose your footing for a sec...Not taking risk makes you lose PERIOD... (Being in hot water keeps you CLEAN!)

"WAYS TO FEEL HOT AT ANY AGE"

1. TRY NOT TO CARE MUCH ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK.
The hottest women are the ones who aren't concerned about others' opinion of them. One of the greatest things about getting older is that you know yourself and what works for you — and that's hot no matter how old you are. Dressing in a way that makes you feel good about yourself and helps you express who you are goes a long way — and it doesn't have to be expensive."


2. DON'T FOCUS ON WHAT'S NOT HOT.
Try "not" to focus on your flaws. Focus on what you got, and you'll rock!

3. FIND YOUR BEST FEATURE.
Everyone, no matter what age, has one great body part or facial feature. And that's all you need to make you feel good about yourself. Just make the most of it. 


4. SMILE ALOT.
We all know we look best when we're cracking up or grinning about something. (Think about it: How many times have people told you that you have a great smile?) Also there's a certain confidence in a smile or laugh.

5. MOST OF ALL...LAUGH AT YOURSELF!!! 
Crack up at the silly things you do from time to time. You will find it to be an incredible release. If you have trouble laughing at yourself, find some friends who also have a good sense of humor, who will mock your little idiosyncrasies with love and fondness, instead of coming off as criticism or an attempt to humiliate you.

"If a person cheats on you twice....You helped them the second time"

A GOOD ONE!!!

Fellas...When a lady's not on your SIDE, she will most likely FRONT and most definetly won't have your BACK! .....Find a good one!

JUDGING A BOOK BY ITS COVER

I had to develop this post based on a previous one. I was speaking with a close friend of mine, and she said there are alot of women out there that would take the opportunity to get to know the man collecting carts at Wal-mart. Then I asked, "how would you go about that?" For one, the setting is not right; more than likely he will not be dressed in his best attire.

Someone said, the cart collector does not want to be anything but that. Do you really think an adult male sees himself retiring from Wal-mart as the shopping cart guy?  The fact of the matter is, there's alot of good men being passed by based on perception.  This man may have been a college graduate business owner,  an executive for a large corporation, or he may be the hardest working man you'll ever meet and working one of three jobs. How about this, a GOOD man that is just down on his luck.  NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER! Open it up and read the pages.

Its time our women step up and get back to basics, tradition and the old values. Stop letting society tell you what is "fly".  Real Housewives, Basketball wives and the other reality shows is not OUR reality. That's why you are so fascinated with such programming. Did you get that? "Programming".  You are programmed to want what you see or similar.  All i'm saying is, once you take the blinders off you will begin to see the "whole' picture.

In 1922 President Truman was 38, In debt and jobless. In 1945 he was the most powerful man in the free world. You'll never look at a trip to Wal-mart the same again. LOL. Have a great weekend!

"Haters usually hate the things they cant have, and people they cant be"

Always remember..Be more concerned about your character than your reputation...
Your character is who you are, your reputation is who people THINK you are!!

Women sometimes fake orgasms,  but ladies WATCH OUT, there are men out here who fake whooole relationships.

SAME GAME

WE'RE ALL IN THE SAME GAME; JUST DIFFERENT LEVELS.

DEALING WITH THE SAME HELL;  JUST DIFFERENT DEVILS.

NO STRESS!!!

Absolutely NO stressing about any circumstance...If you change how you look at things, the things you look at will change.

ONE HOUR AFTER DRINKING A CAN OF COKE

"TEN WAYS TO LOVE"

1.  LISTEN WITHOUT INTERRUPTING.

2.  SPEAK WITHOUT ACCUSING.

3.  GIVE WITHOUT SPARRING.

4.  PRAY WITHOUT CEASING.

5.  ANSWER WITHOUT ARGUING.

6.  SHARE WITHOUT PRETENDING.

7.  ENJOY WITHOUT COMPLAINT.

8.  TRUST WITHOUT WAVERING.

9.  FORGIVE WITHOUT PUNISHING.

10.  PROMISE WITHOUT FORGETTING.

JUNGLE FEVER!!!

We have touched on this topic in a previous post.  Why is it that some women just can't except when a GOOD man decides to test the waters on the other side?  A friend of mine is married to an Asian women, and he says that he gets more frowns and crazy looks from the "sistas".  Where men on the other hand could care less who dates who.  Ladies, is it hating? Jealousy? Envy?  I notice even when we discussed it on the other blog, black women are a little touchy when it comes to this issue.  What is the problem with women of other races taking that GOOD black man off the market?  What's your take?

SMOOTH SAILING.....

A ship is safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships are for....Explore!

WHY MEN CHEAT!

Why do men cheat?                        
In most cases, it is simply because they aren't getting enough. The urge to have more sex is generated in the same part of the brain as the urge to have another slice of chocolate cake. They also wanted a person who was not a threat to their wives or families.

Why get married if your imtention isn't toward monogamy?
Men are still biologically driven to provide for their females and ensure their children are safe. Marriage continues to provide the social, legal and security benefits. The introduction of sexual exclusivity to marriage was originally intended to ensure inheritances stay within families, if you use a non-biblical rationale, but given that the modern Will and Testament, monogamy is no longer relevant for that purpose.

Can men really be monogamous?
I would say 100 percent of men cannot be mentally monogamous, in that they are biologically programmed to assess the sexual attractiveness of every single woman they see. A normal man could also achieve monogamy with a highly-sex driven woman, as could a man with a low libido and a normal woman. However, a normal man and a normal woman who have decided on lifetime sexual exclusivity [could] face chances of divorce and a very high chance of cheating.

Can you prevent men from cheating?
NO...However, you can use his nature to work for you, rather than against you. That means negotiating some infidelity if you are not “in the mood.” It does not have to be other lovers: It could be pornography, or a lap dance [at a strip club]. The important thing to remember is that "sex" is your man's strongest, most basic instinct, so working with it puts you in a position of  power in the relationship. It is better to walk the dog on a leash, than to let it escape through an unseen hole in the back fence.

Also, never cross your legs for an extended period, that's opening the door to infidelity.  Don't let yourself go, always keep yourself up.  There is nothing less valued than a woman that no one else wants. Always remind him how valuable you are, how popular you are and drop "subtle" hints that other men still find you desirable. This will take advantage of his biological need to compete.

What you should know about "the other woman"?

The most important thing to remember is that a man is probably only cheating for sex and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Cheating men still love their wives, they just can't resist a second slice of chocolate cake. Also remember the other woman is probably very normal.  You imagine the other lovers to be prettier, or thinner or better dressed, but there aren't too many supermodels out there looking for sugar daddies.

Remember this, IT HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE!!!  To sum it up best, it is truly the "nature" of the beast.  I can honestly say, ALL MEN DO NOT CHEAT, but all men have cheated at some point and time in their lives.  Most men I have interacted with in my travels will admit, as you age and mature, that desire eventually fades and you want to commit to that special woman.  In these present days of, "what they don't know, won't hurt them" and "what happens here, stays here",  we are finding faithfullness and loyalty to be a thing of the past.

CHEATING IS A CHOICE... NOT A MISTAKE!!!

"Dress for how you want to be addressed" 

Ladies....All men with money aren't smart, sometimes a mans money grows but he doesn't...BEWARE!

THE 5 W'S OF LIFE

BELIEVE!

"BELIEVE"

Believe in yourself~

in the power you have

 to control your own life, 

day by day.

Believe in the strength

 that you have deep inside,

 and your faith will help

 show you the way.

Believe in tomorrow

 and what it will bring,

 let a hopeful heart

 carry you through,

 for things will work out

 if you trust and believe~

there's no limit

 to what you can do!