Although surrounding yourself with friends is definitely helpful and important, that's not all you need to do. There’s a difference between getting over someone and wanting to get over someone. You need to get yourself to want to be over it before you will ever actually feel it. Wanting to get over someone takes time, thinking, and probably lots of tears, but it’s the only way to get over someone in a healthy way. You will know when you reach that stage.
The first thing to remember is that it’s normal to be sad. You always seem to reflect on all the good times. You’re going to be use to talking to them at certain times of the day. If you’re not ready to go out with your friends, wait until you are. Rather than forcing feelings on yourself, accept how you feel and try to put a positive spin on it. You obviously had something special if you feel this way.
The hardest part is knowing you’re ready to get over them. While following the normal ‘getting over someone’ routine of going out alot and talking to them less, take some time to reflect on how you actually feel on the inside. If you still wish that it was them talking to you instead of a stranger at a bar, or it was them walking with you in the mall making you laugh instead of your friends, could mean that you’re not ready to move on. You have to want to get over someone before you can. Wanting to get over someone doesn’t happen overnight and it may take an experience to get the feeling. You can still love the person and what you had, but you need to learn to love what you can have. Living based on the past slows you down.
One of the biggest mistakes that people make is forcing themselves to get over someone when they don’t actually want it. It takes a few random hook-ups to realize that although that may keep you busy and make the days go faster, you still wake up wishing that special one were there instead. Once you’ve reached the stage that you’re able to genuinely smile when single, you’ll want the best for yourself.
Real talk here. Thanks because now I can tell myself well done you have finally let go. It's time to allow God to work his magic.
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ReplyDeleteI couldn' agree with you more. This goes with pretty much everything in life. If you want it, you have to work for it and at it.
ReplyDeleteAlso make sure that you really want to get over them, and not just upset. Always ask yourself, was things really that bad, were they a liar, cheater, any of the above? If so, kick them to the curb and don't look back. If it were some things you could work on, idk,nobody's perfect. It's great to have someone that's 90%, the way you want your mate to be. Than to find someone, who needs even more work to them.lol Is there heart in the right place when you think about them, are they dishonest? You can smooth out a few bumps in the road vs. having to pave a whole street.lol U get what I'm saying? Someone else may put in the work, that you didn't want to. How's that gonna make you feel?? Be sure of your decision, that's all I'm saying. Fix what you broke b4 someone finds what you lost.
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