There is a generalization that they have no interest in eating right or going to the gym. We often hear about the research and studies that show how overweight black women are. However, recent studies show that more so now than ever black women have become more active and are prone to eating healthier.
2. BLACK WOMEN DON'T LIKE TO LISTEN TO THEIR MEN
Black women are raised to be strong minded. However, if they feel that he is responsible and they trust him, then they have no problem listening to their man. It is only when they do not trust him or his motives that their guards begin to rise and the trust vanishes.
3. THEY HAVE NO INTEREST OR URGE TO GET MARRIED
Despite the recent interest in successful black women being single and assumed to not have any interest in marriage, the truth is that many of them do want to be married one day. Just because a woman has high aspirations for her career does not mean that she does not still yearn for her soul mate.
4. THEIR HAIR DEFINES THEM
Yes, black women do love their hair. They enjoy how beautiful a new style makes them feel. What women doesn’t love a fresh salon look? However, some black women take it to the extreme when it comes to their hair. I could go on for days with this one, but I won't.
5. THEY DO NOT GET ALONG WITH OTHER WOMEN
This is a stereotype of all women. But it seems that black women are perceived to be more territorial, and are assumed to be always overly aggressive and angry.
6. BLACK WOMEN DO NOT LIKE TO PERFORM ORAL SEX
I believe this is an ancient myth nowadays. Any woman who is in love with her man will put forth the effort to please him as long as he is pleasing her. It is in a woman’s nature to want to keep her partner happy.
7. BLACK WOMEN LOVE TO ARGUE AND FIGHT
This goes back to slavery days when the black man would be punished for talking back to the master, while the black woman was given more rope. No pun intended. And still to this day they have to have the last word, and WILL fight if she has to.
8. BLACK WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS
All women of every culture enjoy being cared for financially. Ladies how many times has a man looked just a little better driving that new Benz, with a pocket full of money and a celebrity status? When every woman thought Wesley Snipes and Omar Epps were the finest brothas alive. Take them off of the tv screen and you wouldn't look twice.
9. BLACK WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO THE BAD BOY
Many find themselves attracted to the bad boy or the man who you KNOW is no damn good for you. Some women distance themselves from being attracted to the wrong type of man, who might not be as exciting, but probably will treat them a whole hell of a lot better than the bad boy.
10. THEY HATE TO SEE BLACK MEN WITH ANOTHER RACE
I don't know if it is deeply rooted in them, but when Derek walks in a room with Sally, you can cut the tension with a knife! I have a lot of friends and family that date outside their race and know this one to be true. Especially if the man is attractive.
You hit the bullseye with this one....
ReplyDelete#5-Most women are territorial because we know of the trash that is lurking, the women who dont care if he says "I'm married or in a relationship." When we are driving on the road, most of us are not concerned about our driving, its the other drivers on the road you have to beware of. Yes, the man plays the ultimate part if hes out there lying and coming on to other women, but at some point she has to know that he has someone. Ladies better take a look at whats going on with Fantasia, Dwayne Wade and others, then ask yourself, is he really worth it? Some women make it hard to get along with them. Although in the end if your man is gonna step out, there is nothing you can do and if you find out that he has, you have a choice stay or leave him!
ReplyDelete#6-With the way men are stepping out on their partners (ladies are stepping out as well, but this applies to the men) and now its not just with women, sorry pleasing him at this point I hope you are using flavored condoms!
ReplyDeleteSome sistas do add some truth to the stereotypes.
ReplyDeleteAint that the truth!
ReplyDeleteSMH....Good Job!
ReplyDeleteI admit that for years I thought that my hair had t be long, lustrious and straight at all times to be beautiful. In the last two years I decided not to relax my hair but I kept it braided the entire time. In the last 6 months I decided to wear my natural unrelaxed hair and I felt liberated by doing so!!! But although my hair is natural I still maintain a cute style at all times so I guess I still care about my hair...but I AM NOT MY HAIR!!!
ReplyDeleteAs far as being successful and not married. I must say I am divorced and totally career focused however, I long as most women do for that special someone to share my life with. The problem with successful black women is that our success, degrees, and drive are often times intimidating for men....especially those that are not on the same level mentally. I personally would much rather be single and satisfied then to settle for a man that will resent me because I make more money, or have more degrees or drive then him. I want a man on my level...it is not always about money for women but in most cases it is all about money for men!!! It takes a real man to celebrate his woman for the smart, intelligient, successful woman she is and to not feel less than because he has insecurities. Men often want to put it off on the woman as being stuck on herself when it boils down to he is just insecure about him!!! Either way there is somebody for everybody it's just finding that sspecial someone that can be the challenge.
I agree with the intimidating factor mentioned above. However, Black women need to step back and see why that is. For years have torn the black male apart, instead of building him up.
ReplyDelete@Go Girl, like the Anon mentioned, Black women today don't appreciate the traditional NORMAL, hardworking brotha. Everyone's ambition and goals are not at a 10, but doesn't define the fiber of a man. Women should be leary of the man that seems to have it all....Because he really believes he can have it all, and thats women included!
ReplyDeleteTrue Chris, I think the sistas are so influenced by what society has measured success as, they have forgotten about the intangibles; A family oriented, god-fearing, loyal, GENTLEman. Fact is, that guy may be collecting carts at Wal-mart. You think a successful sister is going to give him the time of day? Won't even look at him twice, unless he's in their way.
ReplyDeleteI agree with both Christopher and Jay, many of our Black Sistas have been very influenced by what society has to say. This discussion can go on and on for days from a womans point of view and from a man's point of view. Remember these are called myths and are sterotypes. Unfortunately and sad to say there is a large population of Black women that really do fall under these sterotypes. My solution is to be true to ones self. Find the true meaning of love and allow it to find you. As a strong Black female I do not allow these sterotypes define who I am. At the end of the day I'm looking for my Strong Black King and they come in many ways and many forms. FYI that Walmart cart collector that is being overlooked may indeed be your soulmate.
ReplyDeleteYou sho said a mouthful.
ReplyDeleteAll: The number one cause of divorce in the United States is money!!! So while we may as women say that we would in fact consider the Walmart cart collector our soul mate the reality of the matter is that if he has no desire to be anything but a cart collector and there's more bills than money "you and your soul mate gonna have problems". Every woman wants to feel as though her man will take care of her and the home no matter what. I personally have no problem marrying or dating anyone that does not bring in the same amount of funds as I do, all I ask is that he have ambition and drive to always want to do better, be better!!! There are succeeful, faithful, god fearing GENTLEmen in this world that only want happiness.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading several of your comments, it is sad to say that a few of your are actually correct. These new liberated women out here would not give that Wal-Mart brother a 1st, let alone a 2nd look. Sound to me like Go Girl is focusing more on the financial part of the relationship than reality. The reality of it, is that people have allowed society to tell them who and what defines them money, cars, a home or any other material possession should not define who you meet, fall in love with and marry. The size of his bank account should not determine his true worth. When you met that man or woman you knew what their goals and aspirations where, if they were not to your liking, then go get that person who is making top dollar and see how happy you really are. People have a belief that when they get with a person they can change them. The only person who can make that happen is self. My grandparents always told me, "MONEY CANT BUY LOVE OR HAPPINESS". People need to stop living above their means and following these stupid reality shows. If any of you watch some of the popular ones such as Basketball Wives, you can see the reality of what is going on with those women, all their men are famous and have acquired wealth, but look at the misery an unhappiness of what they are going through. Adultery, fornication, lack of love and most of all the men have no respect. To all you "GOOD" men, there are some of us who would look at the Wal-Mart brother, that could just be his part- time job along with is full-time one and he's working both to provide that special woman in his life, not the things she wants, but what she needs! I would rather live with him in a 1 bedroom apartment and have all the love and respect in the wolrd, as appose to living separate in our big old house and not having it at all. Granny always said, love and cherish him when he provides you with your needs, be greatful when he takes care of your wants!
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