ONE HOUR AFTER DRINKING A CAN OF COKE

"TEN WAYS TO LOVE"

1.  LISTEN WITHOUT INTERRUPTING.

2.  SPEAK WITHOUT ACCUSING.

3.  GIVE WITHOUT SPARRING.

4.  PRAY WITHOUT CEASING.

5.  ANSWER WITHOUT ARGUING.

6.  SHARE WITHOUT PRETENDING.

7.  ENJOY WITHOUT COMPLAINT.

8.  TRUST WITHOUT WAVERING.

9.  FORGIVE WITHOUT PUNISHING.

10.  PROMISE WITHOUT FORGETTING.

JUNGLE FEVER!!!

We have touched on this topic in a previous post.  Why is it that some women just can't except when a GOOD man decides to test the waters on the other side?  A friend of mine is married to an Asian women, and he says that he gets more frowns and crazy looks from the "sistas".  Where men on the other hand could care less who dates who.  Ladies, is it hating? Jealousy? Envy?  I notice even when we discussed it on the other blog, black women are a little touchy when it comes to this issue.  What is the problem with women of other races taking that GOOD black man off the market?  What's your take?

SMOOTH SAILING.....

A ship is safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships are for....Explore!

WHY MEN CHEAT!

Why do men cheat?                        
In most cases, it is simply because they aren't getting enough. The urge to have more sex is generated in the same part of the brain as the urge to have another slice of chocolate cake. They also wanted a person who was not a threat to their wives or families.

Why get married if your imtention isn't toward monogamy?
Men are still biologically driven to provide for their females and ensure their children are safe. Marriage continues to provide the social, legal and security benefits. The introduction of sexual exclusivity to marriage was originally intended to ensure inheritances stay within families, if you use a non-biblical rationale, but given that the modern Will and Testament, monogamy is no longer relevant for that purpose.

Can men really be monogamous?
I would say 100 percent of men cannot be mentally monogamous, in that they are biologically programmed to assess the sexual attractiveness of every single woman they see. A normal man could also achieve monogamy with a highly-sex driven woman, as could a man with a low libido and a normal woman. However, a normal man and a normal woman who have decided on lifetime sexual exclusivity [could] face chances of divorce and a very high chance of cheating.

Can you prevent men from cheating?
NO...However, you can use his nature to work for you, rather than against you. That means negotiating some infidelity if you are not “in the mood.” It does not have to be other lovers: It could be pornography, or a lap dance [at a strip club]. The important thing to remember is that "sex" is your man's strongest, most basic instinct, so working with it puts you in a position of  power in the relationship. It is better to walk the dog on a leash, than to let it escape through an unseen hole in the back fence.

Also, never cross your legs for an extended period, that's opening the door to infidelity.  Don't let yourself go, always keep yourself up.  There is nothing less valued than a woman that no one else wants. Always remind him how valuable you are, how popular you are and drop "subtle" hints that other men still find you desirable. This will take advantage of his biological need to compete.

What you should know about "the other woman"?

The most important thing to remember is that a man is probably only cheating for sex and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Cheating men still love their wives, they just can't resist a second slice of chocolate cake. Also remember the other woman is probably very normal.  You imagine the other lovers to be prettier, or thinner or better dressed, but there aren't too many supermodels out there looking for sugar daddies.

Remember this, IT HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE!!!  To sum it up best, it is truly the "nature" of the beast.  I can honestly say, ALL MEN DO NOT CHEAT, but all men have cheated at some point and time in their lives.  Most men I have interacted with in my travels will admit, as you age and mature, that desire eventually fades and you want to commit to that special woman.  In these present days of, "what they don't know, won't hurt them" and "what happens here, stays here",  we are finding faithfullness and loyalty to be a thing of the past.

CHEATING IS A CHOICE... NOT A MISTAKE!!!