We have touched on this topic in a previous post. Why is it that some women just can't except when a GOOD man decides to test the waters on the other side? A friend of mine is married to an Asian women, and he says that he gets more frowns and crazy looks from the "sistas". Where men on the other hand could care less who dates who. Ladies, is it hating? Jealousy? Envy? I notice even when we discussed it on the other blog, black women are a little touchy when it comes to this issue. What is the problem with women of other races taking that GOOD black man off the market? What's your take?
Yes i date sistas, but that is my preference, and all my boys are always like, damn man how did you bag that, but they could really care less. But i get some crazy looks from the sistas when i'm with a black women.
ReplyDeleteWell...the only problem I have is when I am approached by a black man that does not initially state that he is married and then I discover he is married to a woman of another ethnicity, it offends me. The only reason I take offense (and don't get me wrong cheating is cheating) is because (in my opion) a black woman is not good enough to have your last name but she is great for you to cheat with. Other than that I could care less my best friend is white and she is married to a black man (who is also one of my dear friends) they have been together since we were in high school. I see nothing wrong with dating outside your race if that is your personal preference then so be it just stay with your choice. I also get annoyed with the black men that want to sterotype black women when they marry outside there race and are asked why(shut the hell up) in my opinion to comment on the fact that black women are strong-minded or mean is a sign of his weakness and no one cares to hear it anyway. How about the answer be because I love this woman not the immediate defensive mechanism called (stereotype). Whiteboy I have never ventured off but I would not say I wouldn't if the opportunity presented itself. I'm not sure why black women would look at you funny cause you are with a black woman it is usual the men that stare or women ridiculing black me rarely does the focus shift to the man of different ethnicity. But hey stranger things have happen. I say if you marry for the right reasons and you love your mate who cares what other people think. But lets face it society is still super sensitive almost 50 years later to inter-racial couples they just do a better job at keeping their mouths closed.
ReplyDeleteWho you choose to love and marry is your choice. Ive watched interracial couples in my family be destroyed by society in the U.S. When they were overseas that did not face the same problems. My preference is not to date outside my race, although I have met men who have various backgrounds/cultures and what some of them wanted from women, they needed to stay in own their lane. Some sistas have a problem with the brothers going outside their race because they feel like ok we (sistas) have gone through the struggle with him and now he has made it and kicking her to side to enjoy success with not just a woman, but one not of color. Its bad enough that men cheat with any woman at all, but to sit and watch him enjoy the fruits of their labor with a white, yellow or other for that matter is a blow. When that brother is back at square one after Becky is draining him for child support and alimony, then he wants to come running back to a sista. We must give OJ some credit, he stuck with the white women after everything, but on the real side I dont think a sista would have wanted him. Be prepared for the ugly things that society does and will do when you choose to make that decision of marrying/dating outside your race. Sistas are strong and we endure to the end most of us dont crack under pressure. In the words of my girl Somoa, when times get hard sistas dont look to end it all, we start selling stuff, we have fish fries/bake sells, yard sells (selling his stuff...lol), selling dinners out of cuzin Jo-Jo's trunk, stealing from the office (true in some cases not all) things hell half the time we dont even need. My point is sistas wont leave and go running back to her family who never really accepted you they only tolerated you!
ReplyDelete@Daddy's Girl, I agree. WHo you choose to date or marry should be your choice. My best friend is married to an Arab guy. They seem to be very happy. So whatever makes her happy is cool with me.
ReplyDeleteMy girlfriend and her sisters (real sisters) cannot stand to see a brotha with a woman of another race. They will taunt the women to no end.
ReplyDeleteI think it goes back to long history of pain for sistas.
ReplyDeleteSistas will hate on each other in a minute. Let alone another race.
ReplyDeleteBlack women can't stand to see other races with their men, for whatever reason.
ReplyDeleteNot just a man, but people are gonna love who they love. I must admit when i see interracial couples i find myself sometimes doing a double take.
ReplyDeleteMe personally I don't have a problem with it...But I can see how some black women may feel disrespect or insulted by this act...As a black woman but not personally....I don't think it's hate jealousy or envy..I think it's more or so the fact that a black man would prefer a white woman over his own. Like we're second best..
ReplyDeleteWill people ever see beyond color, and just except each other for who we are?
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